When I don’t know something, I seek to find the answer. I don’t know about parenting, especially a boy, a 13 yr old boy. Reading the book, “Bringing up Boys” by Dr. Dobson and my eyes have widened, my brows have raised, and my understanding has enriched (thus I have an increase in patience!).
….While at breakfast the other morning, after Kelly said good-bye and left for work, a young someone said quietly and confidently, “How does he leave out so quietly?” “I want to be Kelly.”
It was in that moment I realized – boys do *intently* watch their dads/ father figures…intently and will likely model after them – good or bad.
You see there is nothing extraordinary about wanting to be that guy who’s known for a quiet exit, but this + watching Kel come and go from work daily + experiencing Kelly teach him academics to produce results he’s not had before + seeing him hug, kiss and “share” w/me + being consistently on time + dining together + having family time + extending politeness + sharing silly humor + family prayer and more…..*all adds up*.
I’m aware of things yes, because I see them BUT also because Someone talks about them later on his own initiation.
“I want to be Kelly”, offered a teachable moment in that that Someone gets to “be his unique self”, yet I’m learning to listen more closely. In that I’m given the gift of “knowing” Someone’s inner thoughts/longings and Someone gets to marinate on the attributes he admires about Kel’s character w/out interruption.
In reading this book I’m finding a framework around (a lot) of what we’re experiencing and I’m realizing the impact and just what a responsibility father figures (and adults) have on who our boys become.
I sense Someone feels #Championed on the *inside*because in behavior, school, demeanor there’s been big shifts on the *outside*!
#Loveinactionisalwaysinstyle
#Uncleknowbest
Proud of both of these guys, I’m learning a lot and wanted to share! XO
Championing YOU…YOUR STYLE, BRAND, AND CONFIDENCE
from the “Inside-Out”, Kim
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Kim (Crumpler) Peterson is Founder of Uniquely Savvy, Inc and is a veteran Personal Style & Branding Coach, Wardrobe Stylist, J. Hilburn Custom Menswear Style Consultant, Co-author, and Speaker. With a commitment to excellence (not perfection!), Kim delivers results and is passionate about helping men & women BE comfortable and confident in their own skin, step more into their potential, and attract more of who and what they truly want in life! Kim invites you to: Join the conversation on Uniquely Savvy’s Facebook business page, call her for a free phone consultation, or book her to speak at your upcoming event. Available for keynotes, workshops, seminars, and girlfriend parties, the programs your audience will love range from personal style and professional image and branding, to success, hope and freedom. Additionally, Kim co-authored, “Incredible Life: Top Experts Reveal How to Create Yours”, and speaks to a variety of audiences on personal empowerment – bringing inspirational messages of hope and sharing practical tips and tools learned on her inside-out, “From Fear to Freedom” journey. Contact Kim @ 425.503.9885.